Pe'ape'a - Utu mo te idealizing

te oto

No kākaá - kahore inoino.

whakatauki Japanese

Whakama rite te kounga o te tangata - he hehema ki te manukanuka tūmanako käore, e tumanako, moe, me te tiango o te whakapono i roto i te tangata ranei ki te tahi mea.

Inoino - te reka kawa o te idealizations rewa. he kohinga o inoino - te wairangi Life ko. e mea he e te ora taiopenga takitahi rave me peita, ko te hātepe o te riri i roto i te ora, ko te kuware banal. E whakatakotoria ana te tangata i te whāinga hē matua te tahi mea ranei he pikitia rosy. Patu a kapea tokomaha, ehara i te mea ki to koutou whāinga tahu ranei, vēkeveke ki te tango i te ahanoa o idealization, tumanako titau nei te reira i te reira ki te tahi mea pai, me te marama, whakapono i roto ia ia. I roto i te take tuatahi kite tatou i te ururua o te wā, pūngao, me te kaha hinengaro ki te kaupapa hoki te mea e kore e meinga e hari ia. Ko te tuarua ko te e he reira tino kore e rite te ture o te ao - he takahi o te kāwanatanga taurite. Tetahi ine, kakai, me nehe whakaongaonga i ope taurite, a ka whiua ratou he tangata mo e noho ana i roto i tona idealization o te ngakau.

Te oto - pai reira wawata, he hinengaro Päkehä. e kore e Faingofua e whakama. Ki te homai he tangata faufaa nui o te kai, sex, moni, taonga rauemi, e whai ana i te ope taurite ki te kawe i te reira hoki ki te taurite. auhoaraa Päkehä - te tiki i te tinihanga o hoa, sex Päkehä - ora te turoro, Päkehä te motokā, he fare, moni - kahore raruraru, tara, engari kahore te hauora, me te anake. Te tangata e kainga o inoino. Ka rite ki te tangata taitamariki ki te kia wairangi i roto i te mekameka o inoino. Nabil te mahuetanga, whakaorangia te traumatized ka haere ki te titiro mo te pohehe ano. Igor Guberman kapi: "hoki te koa o sensations aroha te mamae kotahi whakapeka aufauraa, e pera wehi o runaruna hou e kawe he ure i toku wairua tatou." I roto i nga tau i muri mai, ka kore te mea taea te rerekētanga, riro inoino huru maitatai whakakitea.

Ko te hohonu rahi o te inoino whiwhi te tangata i te mea i ia rawa piri ki. whakaurua Young whānau ahau ki tana tama tawhito tau, a ka mea toku whaea: ", no te whanau Sonny i, ko runga i to tatou ora. Na e ora tatou mo ia anake ". rongo te tamaiti i te reira, a ka he ia i te tataramoa titi i roto i te feruriraa o te whakaaro: "Ko ahau te tino o te utuafare. Taku ora - te uara nui ". Ka rite ki te whiwhi pakeke ratou, kua whakaaetia te reira i roto i te whakaaro e ko te reira i te Center o te Universe, e te ra, e kia maranga i te ata kore he kore i pai i i ahau. Terry tipu siokita, e kore tikanga ki te whakaaro me te whakaaro ki te tangata. He haere mai te wa ka hanga e ia tona ake utuafare. Ko te whaea, ko wai oti rawa tona ora, whakapono e kua noho kotahi ia mo te whakaaro ki o tana tama, e te mea ataahua ki te he te reira ki te ora mo te whakaaro ki o reira, ranei, i te iti rawa, ka tango tiaki o ia. Ko te tama e kore e he ara i te tīwhiri o taua whakaaro wairangi. I pai, rā whānau hari, me te 8 o Maehe. mana'o mama hōhā e wehingia ana, pōuri. Na riro pā pōuri te tapao o tona tuakiri. Ēnei wahine matekiri i muri i te tau o wha tekau nga tau - mirioni.

E mea pinepine, mahino ratou te take o tona riri o te ora, engari e kore e taea e koutou tetahi mea whakatika. Life tuhituhi te kahore faatanoraa, haere e nga tau, whakamahia te koroheke tona matenga ae i runga i pokohiwi taitamariki. Na he aha i te take mō te inoino? Well, huri i te reira i roto i, e kore e hiahia ana ki te aroha ki te tamaiti? atu rite hiahiatia e hiahia ana tatou. Otiia i roto i te horopaki o te mātauranga o ngā tamariki, ko te tika ki te whakaturia te whāinga matua e kore he rauemi, engari ngaahi taumu'a fakalaumālié. he wairua oaoa. Kimihia te wairua i roto i te rauemi, ko te taua katoa, e reira he whenua i roto i te tumanako o te whiwhi ki te rino tinana. whāinga pūtea ki te tamaiti - hauora, mātauranga, me te rauemi pai-oranga me te tane pai. rite ki tona āhua wahine e whangai ana ki te ora mō ngā tamariki, te tiaki hoki a ratou. Ko te mātauranga - te kore noa ki te whangai, takoto inu, me te moe. Mātauranga - te whanaketanga i roto i te tura o te tamaiti, e ko, te mau huru pai o te tangata, he mea he toi ki te hoatu reka fakalaumālie rite te nui o te oaoa. Me mahino Tama te reka o te oaoa i te ataata mauruuru o te tetahi aroha mo e whakaatu ana manukanuka ki a ia.

Engari, kerēme ia e ko ia te pito o te whenua, ki te whakaako tamariki kawenga me te te manaaki mo ētahi atu. Hei tauira, e ai ta-tau e rima koati mama: "wareware tonu ahau ki te horoi o koutou ringa i muri i te haere. E taea e koe fakamanatu ahau ina haere tatou i te fare, e ti'a ia tatou ki te horoi ringa "hoki te tamaiti ko reira he kēmu, me i te wa ano, te mātauranga o te kawenga me te itoito - e rua nga mea nui e pā ana ki te tangata. e kore te āta whakatairanga i taku tama ki te faatura i ona ngākau nuitanga, āwangawanga me ahoaho, tukua atu toku whaea i roto i te ora whakapakeke, egotist siokita, me te kawenga, tangata whaiaro-māia, te tiaki nei e kore e waiho tona whaea.

e kore he hahaereraa ki tona whāinga hoki, he mahi wehe ki oto kawa. Tetahi e whai ki te whakaturia te whakaaro wairua - ki te kawe ake i te aroha, tāú me te mana-whaiaro, ka mea te tangata te whakaaro matua o te ora o te hanganga me te kāinga whakapai ake. patu te reira i hoki nga tau maha i rite te pononga e hoehoea, a te mutunga oti te whare. ora atu, ki te pīkau i te reira, na mahia. Te paturaa i te whare, hiahia ia ki te whakamatau ki a ratou ano, me ētahi atu o ratou faufaa, me te hiranga. mai whāinga Alien i waho - i raro i te mana o fakato'u'osi me ngā whakapono teka, nga whakapono me te mana o etahi atu. Ko te whare, engari i te mana'o o te oaoa, kua me kore e waiho. People hanga mahere grandiose, moe, puka i roto i tona idealization o te hinengaro, me ka, pa tonu te "e minaminatia" whāinga matau e ka te rūpahu, he Maata o te mea moe. timata ratou ki te kite mārama e kore he utu te wa pau me te pūngao te kaha. Ditching te ora o tenei titau tiaki tamau, me te tiaki whare, ka waiho he tangata i te mutunga o te ora whakama.